How to respond to people who constantly talk about you

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Sometimes interruptions are necessary, as if someone’s nonsensical speech at an awards show rambles too far. But more often than not, interruptions that involve one person talking about another are rude and aggravating. And youUnfortunately, some people are chronic breakers; no matter how many times someone points out what he’s doing, he never really stops.

Fortunately for us, writer and podcast producer Rose Eveleth, a frequent interview Y interviewee: knows a thing or two about switches and has shared some tips for dealing with them. This is what you should know.

How to respond when someone won’t stop talking about you

Along with Eveleth, we also have to thank the Newsletter I recommend, who presented their strategies in a recent edition. And here they are:

Forget the subtlety

You’re not going to get anywhere by being polite or subtle, so don’t wait for the other person to realize what you’re doing. (They will not.)

don’t wait for a break

Twice Eveleth points out that when it comes to a switch, there are no pauses in the conversation, so you shouldn’t wait for one, or assume it will come eventually. (She will not). Instead, she offers this solid advice:

“Start your sentence just before your partner has finished theirs,” he writes. “Don’t wait for them to actually finish their sentence. Don’t let them stop and think ‘am I really done?’ Because the answer is always no.

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Interrupt the person speaking above you and say, “Jim (or whatever his name is), can I ask you something?” They will probably welcome the chance to talk even plus Y explain something to you When they pause for your question, continue directly with what you were saying before or want to say now.


Can’t pronounce a word in edgewise? Start saying (and repeating) the name of the switch. (eg, “Jim, Jim, Jim, Jim”). According to Eveleth, this is effective because it draws attention to the fact that someone is speaking over you, and using their name makes it clear that you are addressing them specifically.

Sometime, they will have to recognize you, which gives you the opportunity to speak, and point out that they have been talking about you.

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As a last resort, Eveleth suggests laughing loudly when the person speaks over you. “Not a little laugh, a full laugh so they can hear you,” she writes. “It’s incredibly annoying for them, because they have no idea what’s funny and it can make them nervous enough to knock them off their train.”

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